So what are you going to do differently?
So many people especially at this time of year talk about ‘success’ perhaps, how they are going to achieve more than before, be happier than in the past, realise that long held dream…. problem is firstly most of us don’t really appreciate what the key differences are between successful and unsuccessful people and secondly many find it difficult to change the ‘habits’ that have generated the results they have been currently getting.
“”Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” Eleanor Roosevelt
Success however isn’t random nor down to fluke or luck! The fact is there are very defined and clear cut differences in the habits of successful people and those that don’t achieve their ambitions and desires. The truth is the habits we form and live by together with the decisions we make, have a profound effects on the results we get.
What I would like to do in the blog is very clearly differentiate those key differences so we can catch ourselves where appropriate and make the required changes.
“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” Charles Darwin
Change! Successful people relish change, in fact they seek it out because they know flexibility is a key ingredient for them achieving their goals. Unsuccessful people tend to shy away from most form of change perhaps even afraid of it. They feel more comfortable with the ‘status quo’ “if in doubt do nowt” Successful people are always seeking out new information, constantly looking for ‘the learning’ trying to improve compared to the unsuccessful persons attitude of thinking they have it ‘sussed’, they think they know it already! They often feel they are ‘entitled’ rather than having to earn the rewards, often whining about how unfair life/things/people are, the opposite to successful peoples approach of instinctively knowing you have to adapt and change, learn and grow.
“The No. 1 reason people fail in life is because they listen to their friends, family, and neighbours.” Napoleon Hill
Relationship with others! Successful people tend to be very supportive of others, wanting them to succeed rather than undermining and criticising, they like to share information, taking responsibility for their failures rather than looking for the scapegoat and blaming others. They forgive rather than hold grudges and rather than gossiping, talking about other people they talk about their goals, dream and ideas, making them real and achievable. Successful people tend to associate with other successful people perhaps bouncing of each other or perhaps realising that we become the average of the people we spend the most time with! We can also learn tremendously from them and model the key attributes we see within them that can generate the results we seek. Successful people are happy to listen and take advice where needed.
“Things turn out best for people who make the best of the way things turn out.” John Wooden
Gratitude! Successful people on the whole are grateful, grateful for what they have, often spending time each day acknowledging exactly what they are grateful for compared to the unsuccessful who almost feel that Showing gratitude is a weakness feeling the world owes them something and that they deserve much more than they actually have. Their natural state tends to be one of negativity often good at spotting the problems rather than the potential solutions, the faults rather than the strengths, easily disheartened by their failures. Perhaps this is why they often have no tenacity and give up far to quickly on their dreams. In comparison the positive can-do attitude of the successful dominates their existence, from their day-to-day goal orientated activities to their positive internal and external language, including the “I can” “I will” momentum. As Winston Churchill once famously said “Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”
“Time is what we want most, but what we spend worst.” William Penn
Successful people are very conscious about how they spend their time, knowing it is a precious commodity they resist wasting it, making sure they get true value out of every minute. They use their time to move closer each day to their clearly defined goals, short and long term ambitions that create an incredible focus for their day-to-day lives. Its often been said that successful people make plans whereas unsuccessful make excuses! Time is one of our most valuable and irreplaceable commodities and successful people having recognised this make sure they use every minute in a considered and effective way.
“If you are not willing to risk the usual, you will have to settle for the ordinary.” Jim Rohn
As we become aware of the above differences between the successful and the unsuccessful approaches we improve our self-awareness giving us the ability to not only know who we are but design who we want to be giving us the confidence to face every challenge and seek the solution that will create our individual and unique success. This confidence allows us also to set the all-important goals that drive our daily focus, eliminating the disabling limiting beliefs that often undermine the unsuccessful persons ability to proceed.
At BUKB we help businesses achieve their goals and ambitions so they can obtain real growth and success. Our business helplines manned by experienced experts ensure they adopt the success mindset as well as helping them develop the ‘proven’ successful business strategies required.
Written by Nigel Heald MABNLP ABH – Build a UK Business